First Published on Marriage.Townhall.com
On Saturday, July 07, 2007 5:28 PM
By Pastor Don Milton
The following contains minor editing.
Evangelical Christian men by the thousands are investigating the validity of polygamy every day. Why has there been no news coverage of this? Could it be that the press is only concerned with scandals and these wannabe husbands and wannabe women under authority & nurture are actually interested in pursuing their interests within the context of polygamy? Could it be that these Methodists, Baptists, and Pentecostals break the template of the anti-polygamy hate groups?
It is apparent from the visits to this and other websites teaching about polygamy that the search by Evangelical Christians for sites promoting polygamy is not futile. In fact, the number of Evangelical Christian websites teaching polygamy has grown from only five in 1995 to hundreds today. Many of these sites, especially that cover a broader range of topics on polygamy have readers that are moderately accepting to zealously enthusiastic about taking more woman under their authority and nurture.
What does your church teach on divorce and remarriage? Do they teach it from the Bible? If they don’t teach from the Bible then some of the men in your congregation are likely looking up the topic of Biblical relationships, and polygamy, and finding something they didn’t expect; andromony as practiced as polygamy by Evangelical Christians including actual men who have more than one woman under their authority and nurture.
Consider this, Charles Wesley, the famous 18th century hymn writer, had a brother-in-law who was a polygamist by the name of Westley Hall. After he had married Martha Wesley, he took other women under his authority. Martha even nursed one of the babies of the other women. Westley Hall was not excommunicated, in fact, he continued preaching and in fact wrote much of what George Whitefield preached during the great awakening in the United States and England.
Another strangely forgotten fact of history is that the man most responsible for hymn singing in our churches today, the Reverend Martin Madan, who published the first widely used hymnal that included tunes, also wrote a book promoting polygamy. He was the godfather to Charles Wesley’s son Samuel who took a second woman under his authority while the first woman under his authority was still living in the same household with him. His son, Samuel Sebastian Wesley became the most famous church organist of the 19th century and was even offered knighthood.
I encourage anyone who is truly interested in whether polygamy is indeed Christian, investigate and find out for yourselves what the Bible says about it, and particularly andromony, the relationship with the man rules the woman that God established in the Garden of Eden.
Suni came in to tell us that dinner was ready. She entered through a door that was previously hidden behind a wall hanging.
“Wow, there’s a door there?” I said surprised.
“Sure,” Suni answered. “All of the units have them.”
“All of the units? I’ve got to see this.”
I went out the door and stood on the balcony which stretched the length of a basketball court. Below us was indeed a court, a courtyard, that is, with trees and shrubs and lots of benches. Suni’s friends waved to us from below.
“Can you smell the barbecue?” Suni asked.
I nodded. Hunger took over where curiosity had begun. I walked down the stairs, sniffing my way to the barbecue. From the courtyard I could see that my unit was actually above another one. The lower unit had windows that looked out onto the courtyard and a private patio graced with a beautiful little table. Two cute chairs adorned it like a pair of ear rings.
“Bet you didn’t know I lived right under you.” Suni said as she went into her unit. She came out with such a high stack of paper plates that she had to keep them in place with her chin.
“Nothing like having friends for neighbors,” I answered, then proceeded to follow her to the barbecue.
“I’ve got a special piece of barbecue picked out just for you, Ish. Hope you don’t mind if I call you Ish? I heard Mary calling you that.”
“Not at all. I’d prefer you call me Ish. Is Suni your nickname or your real name?”
“Suni’s my real name. My nickname is Sexy.”
At that moment Mary walked by.
“Ah, I see Sexy has shown you her apartment. Bet you didn’t know we’d have Sista Sexy living just below us.”
That answered my question. I’d been wondering what Mary would have thought if I called Suni by her nickname; Sister Sexy or was it Sista Sexy?
“Let’s get that piece of barbecue you’ve picked out just for me, Sexy.”
Suni’s face lit up to match her smiling eyes when she heard me call her by her nickname.
As we approached Suni’s friends, they raised their voices in unison, “uhhhhhh~”
“They say I have a crush on you.” Suni looked down.
“Well, do you Sexy?”
I shouldn’t have said that. It just popped out. Suni’s face reddened with embarrassment. She fixed her gaze on the barbecue she was getting for me just to keep from looking me in the eyes. Her friends were now silent. This was far beyond my comfort level so to break the silence I uttered.
“Sam tells me that you’re a wonderful group of godly women.”
“Let him tell that to our faces!”
A loud voice bellowed from a tiny lady standing behind the other girls.
That beat my feeble attempt to break the silence as we all roared in laughter. How many friends did Suni have? It looked like the entire membership of single ladies had come over to participate in the barbecue, and why not? I heard a shout from the Balcony.
“You’re a wonderful group of godly women!”
It was Pastor Sam.
“Oh, yeah!” The tiny lady shouted back.
“Yes, especially you, Asina. Salty that you are.”
Sam walked across the courtyard and now stood next to Asina.
“I can see that you’ve met Asina.”
Sam placed his hand on Asina’s shoulder and introduced his pet student.
“Her folks nicknamed her Asina for her salty remarks.”
I remembered my lessons. Asin was their word for salt.
“My speech is always with grace, seasoned with salt, that I may answer every man.”
Asina paraphrased Colossians 4:6 to suit her unique personality. She looked up at Sam, seeking approval.
“And you do answer every man. Some would call it talking back. Nonetheless you do answer, my precious Asina.”
Pastor Sam acknowledged her uniqueness as he gave her shoulder a squeeze. For that moment, Asina appeared satisfied that she’d added her spice to the occasion while getting the attention of Pastor Sam.
Suni had gotten over her embarrassment at having a crush on me. She peeked up at me like a child waiting for a gift. If it pleased her to have a crush on me, I wasn’t going to stop her.
“Thanks so much that you picked out some special barbecue just for me.” I said.
Suni, her bubbly self again, responded,
“I’m so glad you like it.”
Suni and I found a seat at one of the tables. After shoveling down just enough bites to stop the growls in my stomach, I noticed that all of the ladies had formed a line so that they could come by and meet me. I wondered where Mary had gone. As if hearing my thoughts, Mary shouted to me from across the courtyard,
“Oh, here I am Ish.”
Then she continued her animated discussion with some of the ladies she’d been sitting with. I wondered why a line had only been formed to meet me, then I noticed that each of the single ladies was carrying my book. Our barbecue had become an autograph signing.
“Your book is so poetic.” One said.
“I couldn’t stand it! I was so excited reading it that you made me late for school.”
While yet another gushed,
“I could just die dreaming. It’s so romantic!”
This was beyond my expectations. Frankly, I didn’t have any expectations. It was a theology book! I couldn’t understand how young single ladies could be so taken with a text book.
Suni came back with her food and sat down next to me.
“You’re a star.” She said.
“I’m not a star. This is…” I halted mid-sentence. I was about to say ridiculous but realizing their sincerity, I stopped myself. “Now what’s the word I’m looking for? Humbling. I’m very much humbled that there are so many of you who have gotten something from my book. I’m kind of a book worm. I’m not used to so much…”
“Adoration?” One of the single ladies completed my sentence. She looked like one of the women in a White Castle liquor advertisement. Actually, she made them look homely by comparison.
“W..well, I wouldn’t call it that.” I stuttered.
This silencer of mankind replied. I’d never seen anyone that beautiful up close. I mean it. I couldn’t hope to describe her here. For that matter, I didn’t really see her, I experienced her presence. Like the finest chocolate cake, baked by a king’s chef for his favorite son, so she had been created by the Creator Himself; for some lucky idiot who couldn’t possibly deserve her. Oops, did I covet her? Well, not in the technical sense since she didn’t belong to another. But I can still smell the frosting on that cake.
“Oh, don’t let Modelisa scare you. She’s tame.”
Suni took her handkerchief and wiped the sweat from my forehead.
The ladies roared with laughter. I hadn’t realized it but they’d all been waiting for Modelisa to approach and Suni’s wiping the sweat from my forehead was just part of the show. I was certain that Modelisa was a nickname but it fit, just like each piece of perfectly fitted clothing that she wore. They loved seeing the affect she had on men. She knew who she was, what she was, and she took advantage of every skill she had to make even the most confident man become a little puppy on a leash. That is, until she was born again. But for special occasions, such as this, she would entertain her friends by helping some important visitor face his own mortality; and to show him that no matter who he was, that there are some things that even he cannot comprehend or explain. Such was Modelisa.
The laughter was contagious. I found myself nervously laughing as well, and I’m sure I was even redder in the face than Suni had been earlier when the girls had teased her. So this was what getting to know Suni and her friends meant. How could I ever forget it.
A few minutes more of signing autographs and a simply dressed young lady came up and sat next to Suni and me. She had a kind face, one that no stranger would fear. She was asking questions about my book and did so in the most thorough fashion. Each time she got an answer she would apply it to her witnessing manual.
“I’m putting together a witnessing manual that helps single Christian ladies reach other single ladies for Christ. I’m approaching it from the method of showing them what the Bible says about chastity and helping them to realize that they fall short of the glory of God and need Jesus. It’s a lot like what you’ve laid out in your book.”
I was impressed; so easy to be with and chat with.
“I’m sorry, I’ve been rude. I’m Ish, and you’re?”
“Hope. At least that’s what my parents named me. My friends call me Modelisa.”
I was about floored.
“You didn’t mind my teasing you a few minutes ago?” She asked.
“Mind? It was a treat. You’re very talented, but what I can’t figure out is how you did it? How did you make yourself look so totally different?”
“To tell you the truth, Ish, it’s not how I did it but how I’m doing this.”
Hope took my hand and lifted it to her face pushing one of my fingers into her cheek, which I now realized was covered with some kind of stage putty.
“My father invented it. When we had problems with mountain tribes coming down and stealing wives he decided the best way to keep me safe was to make me ugly.”
“Well, you don’t look ugly now, except for the hole I just poked in your cheek.”
“Oh, this is just my plain Jane face. You should see me when I put on my ugly face.”
“To tell you the truth, Modelisa, I’d rather not.” She took my kidding in stride.
“But what about your other face and, well, everything else about you.”
“Ish, my other face is hidden beneath this and it looks just the way you saw it earlier and what you refer to as, ‘everything else,'” Modelisa winked, “well that’s just good genes.”
“I find it hard to believe that a pair of jeans could do all that.” I couldn’t resist the temptation of such an obvious pun even at the price of appearing a bit corny.
“Well Ish, I hope you’ll excuse me. This goo will ruin my complexion if I leave it on too long. I’ll see you in a bit.”
“Ok, see you later.”
Sam was sitting close by so I couldn’t help commenting to him.
“Is Modelisa the greatest actress in the world, or what?! How will her future husband ever know when she’s telling the truth or when she’s acting? She’s incredible.”
“You will know them by their fruit,” Sam answered. “Modelisa is responsible for half of the women you see here at this gathering coming to a saving knowledge of the Lord!”
I looked out at all the single ladies there. All of those from his church were there; over 700.
I spoke, my throat now tightening,
“You’re telling me that Modelisa has brought over 300 women to Christ?”
“More.” Sam responded. “There are other churches here besides Tigas View.”
My tears gushed from my eyes. I could barely get out the words,
Suni took me to her apartment where I sat down for a few minutes and wept privately. Mary walked in and said,
“What’s the problem, Ish?”
I tried to tell her but the tears started gushing again. Sam was standing outside the door so Mary went out to ask him.
“It’s about Hope; how she’s brought hundreds to a saving knowledge of our Savior.”
I could hear Mary whisper to Sam, “Oh, Ish is always crying about some spiritual revelation he’s had. He’ll get over it.”
Mary didn’t realize I could hear her. It cut me deep. Not because it was disrespectful to me but because of the way my wife had reacted to Hope; the greatest evangelist I’d ever met. I was humbled at how the Lord had used Hope for such a great purpose and was ashamed at my own shallowness. How could it be that Mary had no awe for the great power that God had given that woman?
Sam walked over, “Now that you’ve gotten to know the ladies, don’t you think it’s time for a Bible study? The girls have been waiting for this moment.”
“Sure,” I said, “But I’ll need some water first.”
Suni had already poured it.
“Here you go, Ish,” Suni consoled me, “My father used to cry when he preached. He said it was because he knew that he wasn’t worthy. But you know, Ish, it was that humility in him that convinced me all the more that he was a man of God. If we ever think that we’re great or that we’re the reason someone was saved then whatever power the Lord has given us to reach people will disappear. We won’t be worshipping God anymore. We’ll be worshipping our own ministry. Modelisa knows that and she needs our prayers. Think how difficult it must be to remain humble if you’re Modelisa? Not only is she extremely beautiful but she has a gift of reaching women for the Lord. There’s hardly a day that goes by that someone has not come to the Lord through her personal ministry. Anyway, my dad would go through two liters of water in one sermon, that’s how much he cried. Don’t ever be ashamed of your tears. They’re the mark of a contrite heart.”
Suni’s caring words warmed me.
“C’mon Ish. The other girls are waiting.”
Suni took my hand and led me out to the center of the courtyard.
 Colossians 4:6
Let your speech [be] alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.
 Rom 3:23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God. It is a Christians duty to know what the Bible teaches concerning fornication. We know it’s wrong, of course, but we’re supposed to know where fornication is defined in the Bible. All cultures are not the same and our culture’s definition of fornication is not always the same as the Bible’s definition of fornication. The definition of the different types of fornication as spelled out in the Bible is what we are to teach and accept. Not only are we are to use biblical definitions of fornication to call sinners attention to their own sins but the primary duty of a minister to those already saved is spelled out in the following verse:
Acts 15:20 But that we write unto them, that they abstain from pollutions of idols, and [from] fornication, and [from] things strangled, and [from] blood.
Remember that Jesus taught the Ten Commandments. The above verse is therefore emphasizing a particular area where Christians must be especially mindful since they are no longer overseen by a priest who gives daily sacrifices for them at the temple. This verse clarifies that even though they are not required to give those daily sacrifices that there are still certain holy rules of behavior that they must follow and that their behavior as well as their avoidance of certain things reflects their reverence for God. Tattoos are a modern day example of fornication against God.
Leviticus 19:28 Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you: I [am] the LORD.
 Mat 7:16-20
Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles? Even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit; but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit. A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither [can] a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit. Every tree that bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire. Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them.
 1Timothy 2:4-6
Who will have all men to be saved, and to come unto the knowledge of the truth. For [there is] one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus; Who gave himself a ransom for all, to be testified in due time.
 Psalms 34:18
The LORD [is] nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.
The sacrifices of God [are] a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise.
For thus saith the high and lofty One that inhabiteth eternity, whose name [is] Holy; I dwell in the high and holy [place], with him also [that is] of a contrite and humble spirit, to revive the spirit of the humble, and to revive the heart of the contrite ones.
For all those [things] hath mine hand made, and all those [things] have been, saith the LORD: but to this [man] will I look, [even] to [him that is] poor and of a contrite spirit, and trembleth at my word.
Note: This excerpt is from The Prince of Sumba, Husband to Many Wives. Copyright 2009 Don Milton All Rights Reserved. All Copyright Laws Apply
The definitions on this website for adultery and fornication are taken from Strong’s Concordance and from the context of the verses in which the words adultery and fornication are found.
I’m surprised at how many Christians visiting this website find my definitions unusual when they are supported by most theologians and as I’ve already stated, Strong’s Concordance. (No, your pastor is probably not orthodox – how could he keep getting donations if he were?)
Here are some verses that are often used to try to change the subject when it comes to defining adultery. I’ll show how these verses don’t do what those quoting them imply.
“Marriage [is] honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”
This verse does not define adulterer or whore. One must already know the definition of adultery and whore from other verses in the Bible or simply from Strong’s Concordance in order to understand what is being condemned here. Since there was no Bible except the Old Testament at the time of the writing of the New Testament then every definition of adultery and fornication must be taken from the Old Testament, the only scripture ever sited by the writers of the New Testament. Furthermore, the New Testament does not anywhere define adultery or fornication. Those terms are defined in the Old Testament. Please see the following article for more on that.
What is notable about Hebrews 13:4 is that it states that marriage is honorable in all. This means that if a man is married then it is honorable. Was David married to his many wives? Yes! So it was honorable. David was punished for committing adultery with Bathsheba, not for having many wives. Having many wives was not then, nor is it today, adultery.
Some site Genesis 2:18 and Genesis 2:22-25 claiming that these verses have something to do with a definition of adultery.
Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, [It is] not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Gen 2:22-25 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This [is] now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
These verses do not use the word adultery nor can they even be said to limit a man to one woman unless a man is also limited to just the amount and type of clothing that God made for him after the fall; coats of skins made by God. You’ll see what I mean when you read the following verse.
“Unto Adam also and to his wife did the LORD God make coats of skins, and clothed them.”
Follow the logic. If God made only one woman and that limits a man to one wife then since God provided only the animal skins that he clothed Adam with then men are also limited to those very same types and number of animal skins that God gave Adam after the fall. “Oh you can’t have any other coat than the one God gave you.” Yeah, sure.
Genesis 2:24 is actually a ban on homosexuality, mother son sex, and an injunction to get married. Something else of note is that singleness is not an option in Genesis 2:24
It says, “Therefore SHALL a man leave his father and his mother, and SHALL cleave unto his wife: and they SHALL be one flesh.”
To understand any verse you must look at the verses that precede it and the verses that follow it. The verse that precedes Genesis 2:24 is of course Genesis 2:23
And Adam said, This [is] now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
Was Adam’s father taken out of Adam? No. Was Adam’s mother taken out of Adam? No.
Therefore, shall a man leave his father….etc. You see? If you read the verse that proceeds it you see that a man shall cleave to his wife because she is the one who was taken out of him. Neither his father nor his mother were taken out of him.
Something to be very concerned about when you take positions on the lives of others is bearing false witness. If you’re claiming that God calls men who have more than one marriage at the same time adulterers by citing Genesis 2:18, Genesis 2:22, Genesis 2:23, Genesis 2:24, & Genesis 2:25 then you are also claiming that righteous Abraham, Israel, David, even righteous King Josiah who read the entire Law to the people, were knowingly committing adultery by taking more than one wife since they were well aware of these passages. Certainly you don’t think you have a higher I.Q. than those great men, or do you! Calling those great men adulterers is to call all Jews bastards since they descended from Israel, the polygamist Patriarch of the Israelites. By such a definition of adultery, Jesus Himself, would be a bastard through Mary his mother who was also descended from the Israelite patriarchs. David, in fact, was only chastised for his one and only one case of adultery, the case with Bathsheba. The Bible is so astoundingly clear on the subject of adultery that I’m shocked that anyone continues to try to redefine it. It can only be a result of their being a child of this world.
Some say that 1 Corinthians 7:2 bans polygamy but in fact it acknowledges that a man can have more than one wife.In 1 Corinthians 7:2 Let each man have his own (heautou) wife, and let each woman have her own (idios) husband.” lol, now remember, it doesn’t say “idiot husband” it says “her own” for which the Greek word is “idios.”
The Greek reflexive pronouns are different for “his own” and “her own”. The reflexive pronoun for “her own” is “idios” which means unique to her, just one, as in the following sentence when referring to the city of your birth of which there is just one.
Luk 2:3 And all went to be taxed, every one into his own city. (his own – idios = one to each person)
The Greek reflexive pronoun that is used in “his own” as in “his own” wife is “heautou” which means his own in the sense that you can have more than one as in the following sentence.
Philippians 2:4 Look not every man on his own (heautou) things, but every man also on the things of others.
You can clearly have many things. This is why heautou was used here instead of idios.
So you can see from the Greek words in 1 Corinthians 7:2 that you have a clear example of where the Greek states that a man can have more than one wife but a woman cannot have more than one husband.
Now it needs to be understood that it is of no consequence whether the Greek word for wife is singular or plural because the Greek word “heautou” leaves open the door for more wives. Furthermore, it would be illogical for Paul to have used plural here because if it were plural then it would be saying that every man should have more than one wife which is clearly an impossibility unless God starts making tons of women. Look at that construction: “let every man have his own wives.” You see! This would be a command for all men to have more than one wife. Clearly the singular for this sentence would be needed whether Paul accepted a man’s right to more than one wife or not. The greek word “heautou” keeps in place the Hebrew understanding of marriage which included the right to more than one wife.Ephesians 5:33 is another such verse.
” Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife [see] that she reverence [her] husband.”
If the word wife were plural then it would read: “so love his wives” and the reader would be led to the conclusion that everyone must have more than one wife. In addition, the Bible never tells us to love any group. It tells us to love each member of that group, singular. You cannot love a group.
I have never disagreed with the fact that marriage is between one man and one woman. David was not married to a group of women as if they were a corporation where the marriage was between David and the corporation. David married each of his wives, individually.
May we always submit ourselves to the Bible. Amen!
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I take many supplements and avoid sugar and soy. I don’t sell supplements. I have no inherited maladies. I take these not to cure problems but to enhance my health. You can purchase all of them online and most of them at Walmart. I have listed them based on my own order of importance. Research them for yourself. I make no claims other than the blurb next to each supplement.
L-Citrulline – for virility and heart health.
Zinc – for the immune system and reproductive health.
D3 – for the immune system and brain health.
Astaxanthin – a powerful antioxidant for the immune system and overall health. Supposedly 8000 times more powerful of an antioxidant than vitamin C which accounts for why the dose is typically just 8mg per day. This is the substance that makes Salmon red.
C – for the immune system and cell membrane health.
Phosphatidyl Serine – Brain health.
Niacin – Circulatory & Brain health.
Hyaluronic Acid – for the outside chance that oral supplementation might improve joint and skin health.
Magnesium – To protect against loud noise ear damage. It does NOT protect against inherited deafness.
Calcium – Bone health.
Garlic – Anti-inflammatory, general health.
Calcium, Magnesium, & Zinc supplement that also contains Vitamin D3 takes care of four on this list and are needed together to function correctly.
I get all the other minerals and vitamins that I might need and that are not listed above through a Multi-vitamin/mineral supplement, the type you can get in any grocery store.