Dear Pastor Don:
I was divorced from my first husband for fornication so it was a Biblical divorce. I then got married to a second man and he divorced me for fornication as well. After that I repented and came to know the Lord. Can I remarry my first husband?
Fickle in Philadelphia
Dear Fickle in Philadelphia:
You may not remarry your first husband. The Bible’s laws on morality apply whether you have been born again or not. Deuteronomy 24:1-4 addresses this issue.
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 “When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give [it] in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man’s [wife]. And [if] the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth [it] in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her [to be] his wife; Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that [is] abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee [for] an inheritance.”
Now we can’t know God’s reason for defining this as an abomination but we can guess. The Muslims have the exact opposite law. The Koran says that for a man to remarry a woman that she MUST first have been married to another man. Let’s look at what would happen if we followed Koranic law instead of Biblical law.
John goes to a popular nightclub and sees a beautiful girl, Sheila. John marries Sheila and gives her 400 dollars for her wedding gift. In the morning John divorces Sheila because she has the wanton eyes of an easy girl. (Of course she would. Marriage wouldn’t change that.) Then Sheila goes to the same nightclub again and this time marries Fred. Fred also gives Sheila her 400 dollars as a wedding gift. In the morning Fred divorces her for the same reason that John divorced her. Now the next Friday, John returns to the nightclub and marries Sheila again. You see what is going on? In fact, by permitting a man to remarry a woman who has been remarried and divorced from another man, the Koran is permitting a type of prostitution that is disguised. The Bible FORBIDS prostitution and FORBIDS marrying a woman over and over which is simply a tricky way (pun intended) to engage in (pun intended again) prostitution. The nightclub owner instead of providing a way for people to meet is more likely operating a prostitution ring.
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